Separation anxiety disorder is a specific phobia and a type of anxiety disorder. Being anxious when separated from a parent is common among toddlers and children, and a normal part of development. However, this can develop into a more serious and persistent condition called separation anxiety disorder and continue into later life.
Separation anxiety disorder is defined as when:
- anxiety interferes with the child’s life, and subsequently the parent’s life
- severity of the anxiety is at odds with the child’s developmental level
- separation anxiety has been going on consistently for at least 4 weeks
What causes seperation anxiety?
Separation anxiety tends to reach its peak in 14–18 months old children. It’s a primitive instinct that leads the baby to develop fears as they become more mobile so they don’t get lost or separated from their family.
Adult separation anxiety disorder has only been recognized since the late 90s. It displays as excessive and restrictive stress when faced with perceived or actual separation from someone they have a strong emotional attachment to, like a partner, family member or carer.
Separation anxiety treatments
For separation anxiety in children try the stepladder approach via the Raising Children Network.
As adult separation anxiety disorder usually exists alongside other panic or anxiety disorders, the first step is to speak to a doctor or mental health professional who will recommend a treatment plan. Exposure treatment is a type of cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) that is often used to treat phobias and involves slowly increasing a person’s ability to deal with their specific stressor.
Last reviewed: September 2014