Sexual abuse
Sex when you don't want it is an abuse of you, and sexual abuse from someone you know is confusing and destroys trust.
Sexual abuse can also be referred to sexual assault. It is generally defined as a sexual activity that you have not consented to. It can refer to a broad range of sexual behaviours that can make you feel uncomfortable, frightened or threatened. Sexual abuse can also include rape, incest, indecent assault, child sex abuse/assault and sexual molestation.
If sexual abuse is happening to you, you might think that it's your fault. It isn't. It doesn't matter who the person is that is making you do these things; they are sexually abusing you. It is possible to be sexually abused by someone you know and love. This does not make what they are doing okay. No one has the right to sexually abuse you, not even your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you speak out about it, there are people who care - they will listen to you and help you.
The age of consent for the majority of Australian states and territories is 16. However, in Tasmania and Queensland, the age of consent for sexual activity (carnal knowledge) is 17 years of age (and 18 years of age in Queensland for sodomy).
If you are having sex with someone who is above the age of consent and you are underage, it is the person you are having sex with who is in the wrong, not you. If you're over 16 and someone's trying to force you, that's illegal too. The law is there to protect you and keep you safe - not to get you in trouble. Ideally sex should be part of a loving and trusting relationship and if your sexual partner is putting pressure on you, then they are not respecting you or how you feel. You do not have to stay with anyone who is making you do something that you do not want to do.
If you have been raped or sexually assaulted, the first thing you need to do is go somewhere you feel safe, such as the home of a close friend or family member or even a police station.
Then, if you feel you’re able to, you should consider telling someone you trust what has happened. You shouldn’t feel ashamed or to blame for what has happened to you.
Find out more about sexual assault and abuse helplines.
Not sure what to do next?
If you are still concerned about your sexual abuse, why not use healthdirect’s online Symptom Checker to get advice on when to seek medical attention.
The Symptom Checker guides you to the next appropriate healthcare steps, whether it’s self care, talking to a health professional, going to a hospital or calling triple zero (000).
Last reviewed: July 2015
